Monday, August 22, 2005

candle in the wind- a tribute to Amanda

I often wonder about the lives of fellow bloggers. How do they look like? What do they do? Will we ever meet? And when we do, would we have things to talk about just like the lively interactions we have on our blogs?

Now I'll never know what it is like to meet Amanda, a fellow blogger who recently passed on from a car accident. Amanda, who only sometime ago, was vivaciously alive and blogging about lipsticks and mini-skirts. This must be some cruel joke right? I may not know her personally nor am I in that position to offer words of comfort to her family and friends but this piece of news still pricks and I feel undoubtedly, a sense of loss.

After reading this, we'll return to our daily grind. We'll turn up for work, meet up with friends and attend to all of life's demands. Slowly but surely, news of her passing will fade. It takes a death to knocks some sense into us and to remember to live well today and take ourselves a little less seriously. Afterall, it does not seem to take much to snuff the life out of a candle.

20 Comments:

Blogger Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

tell me about it...sorry about this. Ouch. Ouch.

Do you know that I ONLY discovered her site, what, three weeks ago!???!!!

hi, I'm m/28...a professional tryng to save the world...

Tuesday, August 23, 2005 12:33:00 AM  
Blogger juliana said...

Yeah, I wonder about that sometimes. What if something happens to other bloggers you know but weren't close to in real life to actually do anything about it. I can understand how you feel. Life is short but worth it.

Tuesday, August 23, 2005 6:23:00 AM  
Blogger Static Compost said...

I think this post shows the integrity of your character, truly a genuine nice person. I did not know Amanda, but I know what you mean when you say you feel a special connection to your fellow bloggers, I feel the same thing. The connection is unlike any other connection. Here we are, on opposites sides of the globe interacting with eachother via our computers. Anything could happen to these people that we become close to, all we can do is enjoy the time we have with them.

Tuesday, August 23, 2005 9:03:00 AM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Thanks guys for dropping by. Emmanuel,hello to you. I wish I can say i'm trying to save the world.My attempts have been too feeble.

Btw, I tried to visit Amanda's blog last nite but it was no longer there.

Staticcompost, those are very kind words! i feel very good to hear that we share the same thoughts on this. Blogging is about that interaction you have with your readers and fellow bloggers. I think that's what sets us apart from mass press. Having followed bloggers and their lives for a period of time, you sort of form an overall impression of this person. And having shared views over all kinds of issues, you feel like you already know the person behind that PC. This is one of the reasons why I'm so addicted to blogging. It's my daily fix.

Tuesday, August 23, 2005 9:45:00 PM  
Blogger Madhusudan said...

Yes Natalie, yep Amanda's site was closed down by her long time partner...I got your mail...and yes...its a sad thing in life that we are but candles...bright when alive...but just smoke when we are no more...
regards

Wednesday, August 24, 2005 12:45:00 AM  
Blogger wookie said...

I am sorry to hear about her death. Death of anybody I distantly know of makes think on similar lines. I wish to read Amanda's blog- I would like to share her views through her blog. Please post the blog id.Thanks

Friday, August 26, 2005 11:19:00 PM  
Blogger Enchanted Mind said...

Nat,

Honestly, I used to open this comment section for the last couple of days, but close it because I did not know what to say.....Strange are the ways of life !!!

Saturday, August 27, 2005 8:52:00 AM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Hi wookie, Amanda's partner shut down her blog sometime ago.

Phantom, i totally know what you mean. When i posted this, i also realise this will be a very awkward topic for most people, esp if they don't know Amanda. Sometimes, silence says alot too. No need to feel bad!

Saturday, August 27, 2005 12:05:00 PM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Oh yes, there's something else i need to clarify..I have never been to her actual blog. she was a guest speaker at madhu's blog...which is how i got to know her and some of her work.

Saturday, August 27, 2005 12:30:00 PM  
Blogger Melissa Muldoon said...

I find your post especially poignant. Last week there was an accident on the street outside of our quiet neighborhood. At five in the morning, a young man, a student at UCLA was driving 100 miles an hour down the road and smashed into a tree directly opposite the road turning into our neighborhood. The car broke into three pieces. He did not live. The accident has been cleared away but in its place are flowers ribbons and grief. I pass by there every day and see young people standing in the empty space saying goodbye to a their foolish friend who drove too fast and thought he was immortal and death was something to be laughed at. I did not know this person, but I feel his presence every time I drive by the spot where he died. Sadness and anger over a wasted life is what I feel. I did not know this person but he has touched my life none-the-less...and I mourn him.

Saturday, August 27, 2005 1:44:00 PM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Melissa,your message really brings home the kind of anguish people feel when something like this happens. An accident that could have been so easily avoided-if people acted abit more responsibly, if not for themselves, but for their parents..the pain is on those who are left behind.

I think your comments really struck a chord with me. Different circumstances, same feeling.

Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:52:00 AM  
Blogger Pseudosanity said...

Hey Nat,

Please tell me this is not the Amanda from "Confessions of a Girl On Her Way Home." Please.

Sunday, August 28, 2005 10:33:00 AM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Not that Amanda, Pseudo. Not her...that would be tramatizing, truly. Mandie..from Confessions of a girl has become such a great friend.It would be devastating but i assure you the other mandie is doing great now.

Sunday, August 28, 2005 11:10:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

hey baby girl! Its Mandie! Sorry that happend to her. Yes Pseudo Im fine. Thank you for thinking of me. I just have no time for anything these days.

Nats I am sooooo sorry to hear of Amandas passing. Its sad the bad things that happen to good people. God picks his roses at their most beautiful moments sometimes. My prayers are with those that loved her.

Tuesday, August 30, 2005 10:35:00 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Hi...
I am really really sorry to hear about what happened to her...
dear God...

.::SINA::.

Tuesday, August 30, 2005 2:05:00 PM  
Blogger vevck said...

Hey Nat,

I am sorry for Amanda, my condolences for her family. Its really a sad thing to happen to any person, when they pass away due to accidents.

Also Nat, i was really hoping it was not the same girl Mandie from "Confessions of a Girl On Her Way Home". I am not sure how many fellow bloggers know that Mandie also shares the same name Amanda, so i was really worried when i read this post. After reading the comments section u clarified it.

Wednesday, August 31, 2005 2:55:00 PM  
Blogger Emmanuel.K.Bensah II said...

For the past two days, there has been a lot of talk/discussion of Amanda...It must be heart-rending and heart-warming at the same time to know that she has only just gone to another place...

From people commenting on my blog to people commenting on your blog compassionat...

May her soul truly rest in peace...

Wednesday, August 31, 2005 6:08:00 PM  
Blogger Enchanted Mind said...

@Nat,

When I read it, I actually was wondering if I read her anytime. The name sure strikes a chord. But I also wondered how I would feel if someone whom I had interacted too often through the blog(I sincerely hope it doesnt happen that way) went thru such an incident or what others might think if I went thru the same.(There are sometimes accidents ya know. I remember a friend telling abt the death of 23 yr old guy while a van came from no entry and hit him).....I cldnt fathom...it is a weird and strange feeling of sadness and loss !!!

Incidentally, like Melisa wrote, my coach took me to see a Local Tennis tournament and while driving back, he showed me a house on the curve that kinda look unihabited...REason, some guy in the night drove right thru the house !!! Strange, similar incidents at two different places !

Wednesday, August 31, 2005 10:11:00 PM  
Blogger compassioNAT said...

Hi everyone...I've havent had the time to check my blog in a long time and I feel quite moved by the overwhelming response.

Hulai, esp for you! I have not heard from you in a long time and when i first blogged this, I did wonder if people would mistake you as the victim here..I should have clarified that alittle sooner. Cos quite an unnecessary scare didnt I?

Phantom, someone drove through that house?? Geez..you think this only happens in movies.

On a separate note, car accidents and road rage are on the rise here too. Too many cars, too little patience. Just read this comment section...everyone seems to know someone who died of an accident! crazy world we live in!

Wednesday, August 31, 2005 10:30:00 PM  
Blogger Raao said...

I knew Amanda from her short stories, her interviews of authors, our emails
and her Blog. I do not know the circumstances surrounding the accident. Her last email to me was 11 Aug, I replied 13 Aug about 6am(her time)
Her Blog was gone 17 Aug, as well as her profile at EroticStories.com where almost all her stories are posted.
I emailed her Belgium address and received an email from her boyfriend.....
Amanda's last two completed stories are posted as well as well as one unfinished story; her
last words on paper.

The last story she co-wrote with a friend in Australia is posted under the author: Xctnymphette. At E..S..com, you can see how she will be missed.

Last, I am sorry her blog was deleted and am gald that emmanuel has posted a few of her words.
If you search with:
"dogpile, google, etc.. you should come across her interview.

A friend wrote:

There is an Austraslian aboriginal story which answers the question about why the special people die young- they say that the old people who live in the dreamtime love them so much that they can not bear to be without them. This is what we feel too!

I shall remember Amanda:

For you Amanda
A last goodbye, a new beginning

Do not stand at my grave and weep-
I am not there, I do not sleep
For I am the thousand winds that blow
I am a diamond on the snow
I am the sunlight on the ripened grain
I am gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of gentle birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that light the night
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I do not Die.!

RaaO

Sincerely
Richard
raao007@Gmail.com

Sunday, September 04, 2005 8:42:00 AM  

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